There is no “us” – and every difference carries a benefit – or a stigma.
Try this little test: “Proud to be Black” – “Good.” “Proud to be Hispanic” – “Good.” “Proud to be a Woman” – “Good.” “Proud to be Gay” – “Good.” “Proud to be White” . . . “Proud to be Heterosexual” . . . “Proud to be a Man” . . .